Don’t Waste Your Story

March 24, 2016 — Leave a comment

Don't Waste Your Story

Don’t let your story go to waste.

Only recently, my counselor told me that when I came in I looked like a deer in headlights.  For months, I was a deer in headlights.  I was frozen.  I was shocked.  I was in disbelief.  Until that point, I had used every coping mechanism out there to hold everything together.  I rationalized.  I minimized.  I suppressed.  I cleaned up any and all messes to make everything look perfect on the outside.  And then that one day when I woke up, I was literally shocked to what I had found.  It was like I had experienced every trouble in my life all in one year’s time.  I can’t really explain it other than this:  I had an awakening.  My truth had been revealed to me.  And I had no choice but to deal with it.  It was the hardest and best thing that I’ve ever gone through in my life all at the same time.

Looking back, there were definitely a few things leading up to this awakening/breakdown.  One was the death of my best friend’s baby.  The other was my husband became very ill for a few months and ended up on short-term disability.  My father-in-law had recently passed away (far too soon) after years battling cancer​.  And my mom had just gotten divorced for the second time from the man who my kids had called Pop-Pop for the past five years.  And, as I started to dive into these issues, I began to find many other past issues that I had never dealt with that were just now beginning to surface.

What did I learn?

Forgiveness is accepting the fact that the past couldn’t have been any other way.  For a long time, I held onto this hope.

Why?

Well, because my story isn’t always pretty.  I’m not always proud.  I realize that some have had it worse, some better.  But it’s my story.  And for the first time in my life I’m owning that.

Counseling to improve my self-esteem and reading to invest in my own personal development brought me from a place of looking like a deer in the headlights to having the piercing eyes of a woman who is unstoppable.  I determined to end the cycle of abuse and depression that has been going on for generations in my family so that it never even comes close to my 3 daughters.  I’m on a mission to bring other women with me up this mountain.  Because we are all so much stronger than we think.  My life used to be ruled by shame; now it is ruled by truth.  I am not perfect in any way.  I have good and bad in me.  I have things that I need to work out.  Shame prevented me from doing that.  The truth is that we are here for a purpose – for a reason.  I was put here by the King of kings and I am His daughter.  Know this: God is pursuing you.  He has a purpose for you.  And, the truth cannot be changed.  It will set you free.

Maybe you are still fighting your battle.  Don’t wait for the victory to allow your story to make an impact.

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So, what is your story? How are you using it to make an impact? I want to hear from you!  Are you owning your story and using it to better yourself and others? Or, are you still holding onto the hope that your past could have been different?

BridgettePetrinoToday’s post is a guest post by Bridgette Petrino.  Here’s how she describes herself:

These days I like to call myself an empowered woman… but that wasn’t always the case. Through various life trials, lots of studying/counseling and the support of family and friends, I have begun the journey of self-acceptance. Now I am sharing these stories with you so that other woman can know that they are stronger and more valuable than they’ve ever realized.

Go check out Bridgette’s site, and tell her I sent you!  (Click here to go to her site.)

If you’re interested in sharing your story with others here on my site, send me an email at leanne@leannestolpe.com.